Domestic violence is actually a part of marriage. Everyone, men or women, has encountered domestic violence more or less. Some people argue with reason, some are weak and can be bullied, some remain silent, and some people violently resist. So what kind of reaction is the so-called “right”?
Let’s talk about middle-aged women and how they should deal with domestic violence if they encounter it.
Middle-aged people are an important part of society and can be said to be the backbone of the society. Middle-aged women play multiple roles in the family and work. In order to take care of their husbands and children, they often sacrifice their time and energy.
When they pay so much but encounter domestic violence from their husbands, they will feel fear and despair, and even feel that their lives are meaningless.
Many middle-aged women have encountered domestic violence. How should middle-aged women deal with it?
1. Bravely resist and never swallow your anger
If you exaggerate, domestic violence is a serious crime. Some people say that “beating your wife” is a family matter and is not under the jurisdiction of the law. In fact, it is really not the case! Domestic violence is a criminal act, and it should not be covered up or tolerated by any reason or excuse.
So middle-aged women should protect their personal safety and legal rights and interests, and seek help from relevant departments or institutions in a timely manner, such as calling the police or suing their husbands, and seeking legal aid. If necessary, they can also choose to leave this “home” and temporarily find a safe and warm environment.
A reader complained to me that Ms. Liu (pseudonym) suffered domestic violence from her husband after ten years of marriage. She was often beaten, scolded or dragged by her husband, and had many scars on her body. She was very scared and painful, but she did not ask anyone for help because she felt that this was a private matter of the family, and she was also afraid that her husband would retaliate or affect the growth of her children.
You must know that if the husband is really convicted, it will affect the future of the child at some point. Many men also rely on this and wave their fists again and again.
However, once, she was beaten unconscious by her husband and was found by neighbors and sent to the hospital. Doctors and police advised her to report the case or divorce, and she had the right to protect herself.
After a struggle, Ms. Liu finally mustered up the courage to file for divorce from her husband and applied to the court for a protection order and alimony.
She also began to accept a new life, find new interests, and relieve her trauma and stress. After a period of adjustment and recovery, she found her goals in work and life again, and once again had freedom and happiness.
For some men, divorce is a way to cut off the fire from the bottom of the pot, which is very useful.
2. Resolve it wisely and do not intensify the conflict
Domestic violence is a very bad behavior, so how is it formed? At some moments, women really don’t want to divorce, so they can try to solve it, starting with the cause.
Studies have shown that domestic violence is often caused by the husband’s psychological problems or life pressure, and not all domestic violence is necessarily caused by malice or hostility.
Middle-aged women can try to communicate with their husbands, understand his mental state and troubles, and see if it is possible to help him change or solve it while ensuring their own safety and finding the real cause.
If the husband is willing to accept communication and show an attitude of repentance and improvement, give him a chance, and also give your marriage a chance, give him support and encouragement, and both parties can work together to get out of the disgusting thing of “domestic violence”.
3. Deal with it flexibly, don’t just tolerate or resist
We should understand one thing, domestic violence is a complex phenomenon, there is no fixed pattern and standard.
Middle-aged women should decide whether to continue or end the marriage according to their own situation and feelings. If the husband’s domestic violence is occasional or minor, and does not affect his responsibility and love for the family, middle-aged women can choose to tolerate him, and give him some reminders and warnings, and strive to use their own efforts to make the marriage go on the right path.
If the husband’s domestic violence is frequent or serious, and has caused irreparable harm and harm to the family, middle-aged women can choose to resist him and seek help from the law and society.
In short, middle-aged women are not without choice or powerless when facing their husband’s domestic violence. They can make the most suitable decision for themselves according to their own values and psychological state. Whether it is tolerance or resistance, courage and wisdom are required.
Of course, the most important thing is that middle-aged women should take care of themselves, maintain confidence and an optimistic attitude. Domestic violence is not scary, but not knowing how to deal with it is scary.
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