It is a particularly lucky thing to meet true love. Being able to spend a lifetime with the person you love is also what most people want in their hearts. Although the wish is beautiful, it is difficult to realize it.
Admittedly, in a relationship, we do not rule out that some people can spend a lifetime with the person they love. They love for a lifetime, but some couples cannot go to the end and may even become familiar strangers.
In a relationship, what women fear most is encountering cold violence. In order to alleviate this situation, many stupid women will choose to compromise and lower their posture.
I thought that as long as I did this, the man would change his mind and the relationship would become happy again, but in fact it is not the case.
The more you entangle, the worse the result may be; the more humble you are, the more you compromise, the deeper the other party hurts you. The final result is nothing more and more painful.
So, when a man is cold and violent in a relationship, what should a woman do? You should know that in the face of men’s cold violence, smart women will not please, but “fight back” in these four ways.
01
Give each other some space
Sometimes, men’s cold violence may be because they need some time alone.
In this case, women might as well give each other some space, so that he has time to think and adjust his emotions.
During this time, you can keep a proper distance and avoid over-dependence. And use this time to reflect on yourself and see if there are any areas that need improvement.
By giving each other some space, smart women can provide opportunities for relationship adjustment and create conditions for the growth of each other’s feelings.
02
Appropriate cooling
When a man uses cold violence on you, he is actually testing your bottom line to see if you are easy to handle.
At this time, you should also learn to cool down appropriately, and never take the initiative to find him, let alone take the initiative to reconcile. If you do this, the other party will know where your bottom line is, and he will intensify the cold violence against you.
The real powerful woman is that if you are cold, then I am colder than you. Anyway, you are not the only one in my world, and I don’t have to have you anyway.
When you can really keep calm and do what you should do during this period, the other party will start to be afraid and may change his bad habits.
03
Stay independent and don’t rely on him
When a man uses cold violence on you, you may feel lonely, helpless, and in need of his company or support.
However, you should not think so. You should stay independent and don’t rely on him. You should know that you are a complete individual. You have your own thoughts, feelings, interests and goals. You don’t need him to fill your gaps or meet your needs.
You should have your own social circle, maintain a good relationship with your relatives, friends, colleagues, neighbors, etc., share your joys and sorrows, and seek their help or advice. You should also have your own career or hobbies, work hard to improve your abilities or skills, and realize your dreams or wishes.
You should let him know that you are an independent, mature, and courageous woman, and you don’t need him to support or redeem you.
04
Learn to love yourself well
When a woman faces a man’s cold violence, the only way is to learn to love herself well, stop focusing on the other person, and focus on yourself.
Many women are affected by men’s emotions because they care too much about their feelings. If the other party is happy, they are happy too; if the other party is sad, they are sad too.
Since the other party ignores you and does not provide you with partner value, then you should treat him as your partner. The more you try to change him, it means that you have a kind of sustenance mentality, and you put all your hopes on the other party.
If you don’t want to be hurt in this relationship, then don’t pay attention to the other party anymore, focus all your energy on yourself, lower your expectations of the other party, stop trying to please the other party, and learn to please yourself.
05
Emotional message
In this world, there has never been a smooth love, and there are no men and women who never quarrel.
Quarrels and cold violence are the inevitable path of relationships between men and women. Those women with high emotional intelligence just know how to maintain and maintain them better.
In this world, there is no perfect lover, there are only people who are willing to change for each other and make concessions. Only such feelings can last.
You must know that if you love, don’t treat this relationship with cold violence, otherwise it will only consume the love of two people.
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