In a relationship, mutual tolerance, understanding and submission are the truest form of love.
We all want to find the right person in love, but we often overlook that the most beautiful feelings are not perfect, but those moments when we can still smile at each other in the quarrel.
1. Love is the art of mutual submission.
Many people think that love should be the passion and sweetness when two people are together. But true feelings are shown in constant running-in and compromise. When you have a dispute with the other party, whether you can bow your head and submit often determines whether the relationship can go long-term.
Love is a kind of wisdom. It is not only about mutual dependence in good times, but more about being able to look at problems calmly when you are unhappy. When a person can take the initiative to bow his head, put aside his self-esteem, and be willing to make concessions for his lover, this is not weakness, but a kind of generosity and affection.
Many times, two people in love are like a tug-of-war, and no one is willing to let go first, but what really allows each other to continue is the unconditional tolerance and consideration.
In a relationship, giving in does not mean losing dignity, but rather showing a person’s cherishment of the relationship. Because only when you are both willing to consider each other can you really go further.
2. Mutual submission is the power to maintain feelings
Some people believe that love should be sweet and lasting, and there should be no disputes. But in fact, love without friction is unreal, and there will be contradictions and conflicts in any relationship.
The problem is not whether there will be a quarrel, but whether you can calmly express your feelings and tolerate each other after the quarrel.
Small conflicts in life are often magnified by emotions. Many times, one party bows first, and the other party will also feel the sincerity of the other party.
In fact, many times, the problems in the relationship are not big, the problem is that no one is willing to bow first. At this time, giving in is not a kind of surrender, but to make the relationship more harmonious and happy.
A truly strong relationship is not that there is no quarrel, but that even after the quarrel, you can still understand each other and treat each other gently. Mutual submission allows love to continue because both people know that: feelings are more important than “face”, and tolerance is more worthwhile than insisting on oneself.
3. There is still a smile in the quarrel, that is happiness
In the eyes of many people, love should be smooth sailing, full of tenderness and sweetness. However, true love is often another look.
Disputes, even quarrels, are inevitable. A smile after a quarrel may better reflect the tacit understanding and love between two people than any romantic date.
Sometimes, the quarrel between two people is not a lack of love, but an extreme form of expression. In the world of feelings, quarrels can make two people more clearly understand each other’s bottom line and needs.
When angry, people are more likely to reveal and analyze the most real thoughts in their hearts. And after that, who laughs first, who takes the initiative to reconcile first, and who is willing to laugh to resolve tension is the expression of truly understanding love for each other.
4. Arguing while loving is love
“You quarrel with me, I will not leave you.” Many people think that quarreling means inappropriateness and the breakdown of feelings. In fact, not every dispute means separation.
On the contrary, in a relationship, moderate disputes and frictions are often proof of the feelings of two people. Because only in the dispute can we see each other’s perseverance and love.
Love does not mean no quarrels, but that after the quarrel, we can still snuggle together, still change for each other, and still find a way to reconcile with each other.
After quarreling, we may realize our own shortcomings and see the helplessness of our loved ones. After every dispute, if we can talk calmly, it can make the relationship deeper.
Loving while quarreling is a true understanding and acceptance of each other. Love is like this. In countless disputes and running-ins, we still maintain that indescribable affection.
True love does not lie in the absence of disputes, but in the fact that after the dispute, we can still walk hand in hand. Mutual submission and tolerance are not only to end the quarrel, but also to let the relationship grow in the running-in.
Quarrel is not the end of love, but the beginning of a deeper understanding and dependence. Love is in the smile after the quarrel; happiness is in the moment when each other bows their heads for love.
May we all learn to give in in love, learn to smile, and learn to love deeply and lastingly.
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