Marriage is not only the destination of love, but also the beginning of people’s common life.However, not all marriages can be smooth sailing, and we will always encounter various difficulties.In the world of emotions, many people often fall into misunderstandings when dealing with love.Some people put a scale on marriage, and care about whether their efforts can get the same return; some people argue about right and wrong when they have disagreements with their partners, and even let their emotions run wild and lose their temper.These wrong ways make the initial beauty gradually dim, and also make the road of marriage slowly turn into a disaster under full of calculations and contradictions.
Therefore, if we want a relationship to go smoothly and steadily, we need to cultivate the wisdom of happiness in troubles and pain
1. Increase value, don’t be the one consumed by low quality
We must find ourselves in love, not lose ourselves.So, even if life is full of ups and downs, a good marriage gives people the confidence to move forward.
It does not wrap you up from the wind and rain, but allows you to face the difficulties under the support of this relationship without fear of wind and frost.
A true marriage is a journey of two people growing together in sharing, understanding, tolerance and support, and the key to maintaining a happy journey hand in hand lies in our attitude towards our partner.Only by cherishing independent characteristics, maintaining equal dialogue, and continuously enhancing personal values can this marriage withstand the test of time, which is also the basis for achieving a high-quality marriage.
2. Reduce alienation and do not be the one avoided by cold violence
In the long river of marriage, cold violence is like a silent and invisible attack, but it is as sharp as a knife, cutting the other’s heart.
Imagine that when you set up a table of delicacies with great expectations, hoping to spend a good time with your lover, he turns a blind eye and only looks down at his phone.You happily share the fun of the day, and he always perfunctorily responds with “um” and “oh”, making your enthusiasm like being extinguished by cold water
If you immerse yourself in this indifference for a long time, the marriage will lose its original vitality and temperature and become lifeless.
The two hearts were originally closely connected, and they jointly expected endless beauty in the future. But when the spring of communication dries up, understanding and respect gradually drift away, even the most ardent love will quietly transform into a pool of stagnant water, filled with an indifferent atmosphere.
Marriage has never been a battlefield of indifference and neglect. If a relationship makes people uncomfortable, we should withdraw our feelings in time. Actively seek communication and reduce unnecessary alienation, so that the relationship can move forward and thus rejuvenate.
3. Multiply the goal and be the one driven by growth
“You should make each other better as your goal, give each other strength, and become the person you are destined to be.
Just like, a good marriage requires not only the romance of vows, but also the hand in hand of mutual support.
Having a common goal and fulfilling the best of each other is the happiest state of getting along between husband and wife.
4. Get rid of emotions and be the one who is empowered and nourished
In the secular world, husband and wife will inevitably bump into each other under the influence of firewood, rice, oil and salt.And partners with emotional regulation ability often have a more stable core source and can remain calm in the face of great changes. The other party will also be illuminated and healed under their infection.The best appearance of a family: harmonious husband and wife, less disputes; husband and wife are united, and the family is stable.
On the other hand, the emotions that are vented at any time are like a bomb dropped on the calm lake of marriage.
Those who are wanton Bad words spoken out loud will only make the people who love you feel painful and sad, and overdraw their emotions infinitely.
When people with stable emotions encounter twists and turns, they can always keep their hearts steady and build an energy field full of love and support for the family. Driven by them, partners emerge with positive attitudes and empower each other.The more negative emotions are reduced, the easier it is to enjoy more joy in life.Time is limited. When getting along with your partner, you might as well put down the useless emotional burden.Inject more warmth into the home and have a warm life. Isn’t it the best nourishment for feelings?
As the French thinker Romain Rolland said: “You don’t have to force love, but you have to be responsible for marriage.
Marriage is a long road of cultivation that requires the joint efforts of both husband and wife.
Add value to yourself and stay away from the corrosion of mediocrity.
Eliminate barriers and end the barriers of indifference.
Visions resonate and draw a longed future together.
Emotional purification and cultivation of a quiet oasis.
I also sincerely hopes that you can make good use of these four points, meet your ideal partner among the countless people, bloom to your heart’s content under tenderness, and become the happy person who is not consumed, avoided, or let down.
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