“If a woman loses her dignity and kowtows, even if she is sincere, she will be despised.” When talking about the most disgusting female behaviors in men’s eyes, many people may think of willfulness, nonsense or hypocrisy, but what really makes people cheap is women’s overly proactive and infatuated behavior.
Men, as creatures pursuing a sense of conquest, like others to show admiration and obedience to him, rather than catering to others themselves. If a woman is too proactive and tries to dominate the relationship, it will often make men lose interest or even disgust.
Men often enjoy the sense of conquest, so they are happy to accept admiration from women, but it is difficult for them to accept being tamed or manipulated. Once they feel overwhelmed by women’s proactive behavior, their original good impression may disappear in an instant. In the relationship between men and women, women who take the initiative to propose marriage, take the initiative to reconcile, or even take the initiative to ask for gifts and money will be regarded by men as snatching their dominance.
01: Take the initiative to propose marriage
If a woman is eager to propose marriage, it will make men hesitate, and they are afraid. What does a woman’s initiative to propose marriage mean to a man? Many people may think that this is a brave performance, but in the eyes of men, it is often a symbol of forced marriage, taming and discipline. If a man does not take the initiative to propose marriage, he may not be ready to settle down, or he may still enjoy the freedom in love.
If a man really wants to spend the rest of his life with you, he will be more eager and enthusiastic than you. On the contrary, a woman’s initiative to propose marriage may make a man feel uneasy and even want to stay away.
Once women are in love, they often expect more. They want to enjoy the romance in front of them, and hope to have someone to accompany them in the future. They hope that love is stable and can withstand all turbulence. Men usually regard love and marriage as two different fields. In love, they like romance and passion, but when it comes to marriage, they may need more time and space to consider.
When men are in love, they often don’t like to be forced into marriage. When they enjoy the passion of love, they may not necessarily think about long-term marriage life. But when they decide to get married, they hope to have a stable and peaceful life. If a woman proposes marriage too actively, men may feel pressured and even retreat.
If a man wants to marry you, he will take the initiative to propose. If he doesn’t show any expression, it may be because he is not ready to get married. If you take the initiative to propose, he may feel forced and have the idea of escaping. Therefore, instead of rushing to propose, women should wait patiently for men to naturally show their willingness. Taking the initiative to propose may make men escape and alienate you.
02: Take the initiative to reconcile after a quarrel
When a quarrel occurs between men and women, the party who takes the initiative to reconcile is often in a weak position. If you think that love does not care who bows first, it may be a misunderstanding. Many men are proud by nature. As long as they do not take the initiative to admit their mistakes, and you are eager to make peace, it may mean that you have lost the initiative in this emotional contest.
Whether it is a quarrel or poor communication, if a man does not show understanding and compromise, and you take the initiative to give in, this relationship will often make you feel lost. Men may have tolerance and a sense of responsibility deep in their hearts, but they will care about the initiative. If he is unwilling to give in, no matter how much you compromise, you may not get a response, or even be ignored.
Men may be more stubborn and self-centered than you think, it’s just a matter of whether they are willing to show this side. If he is unwilling to bow his head, then your tolerance and understanding may be meaningless to him. Even if you take the initiative to show your kindness, he may not respond, and this indifference often makes you feel helpless.
Therefore, in a relationship, taking the initiative to reconcile may be a way to weaken your own power. If a man does not show sincerity, your kindness and concession may only make him more stubborn and alienated. The gesture of actively seeking reconciliation often means that one party in the relationship is lowering his own value, and the one who may be hurt in the end may be you.
03: Take the initiative to ask for money and gifts
“If a woman wants to ask for money and things, men often regard it as greed and lose their friendship.” For men, taking the initiative to give money and things represents pampering, while women who take the initiative to ask for it may be regarded as materialism, and even regarded as cheap dependence by men. When a woman asks a man for money or gifts, it may plant a negative impression in his heart.
Even if he is temporarily ambiguous with it, after experiencing such a request, he may lose long-term expectations for this relationship. Men are often realistic. They know who is suitable for long-term companionship and who is only suitable for temporary comfort. Even if they say sweet words and show their gentle side, these may be disguised.
A woman who actively asks for money and things will eventually disgust a man, even if he was once obsessed with her. Even if they don’t break up immediately, he may lose patience with her and force her to leave with cold violence. Men may show passion in their emotions, but when facing real life, their attitude will be calm and rational.
Therefore, if a woman wants to know whether a man really loves her, it is best not to test it by asking for money and things. This approach often only makes men resist and think that women are too materialistic. Testing a person’s humanity is dangerous because real humanity may disappoint people.
Women can judge a man’s feelings by observing details, but never try to test humanity by asking for money and things, which will only expose the weaknesses of humanity and cause the originally beautiful relationship to break.
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