People always have low points. How to be reborn in the low period depends on how you plan and improve yourself. If you want to live a happy life through growth and counterattack, planning and practice are very important.
1. The ability to migrate
Just like the geese living in groups in the Siberian wetlands, when the climate gradually turns cold in autumn every year, they will start to fly to the equator thousands of kilometers away, such as our Nansha Islands, or even other archipelagos further south in Southeast Asia.
The geese cross such a long migration route just to survive.
We can also be like geese. Although we cannot decide where to be born, when the climate changes, we can also go to where we want to go and pursue the life we want.
You can migrate from a small place to settle in Beijing because you have this ability to migrate.
2. The ability to resist frustration
You have an ability to resist frustration, which we can call “resilience quotient”.
I especially admire people with high resilience, because I myself have climbed up from failure countless times.
You went to Beijing for your boyfriend, and faced many difficulties after the breakup. You had no house, no car, no job, nothing. But you did not give up your life in Beijing, nor did you attribute the failure of this relationship to the failure of life. Instead, you tried to solve these problems. This is a key to adversity quotient:
Confine the difficulties of life to a small range.
Many people are defeated by failure. For example, if you go to Beijing for your boyfriend, and finally break up, you will say “My life is a failure. I have nothing now because of him”, and expand the frustration of the entire emotion into the frustration of life, or even expand it to a complete collapse of life.
But you didn’t. In this predicament, you just regarded it as a setback in a relationship, and you believed that you could still have a brand new future.
This is adversity quotient, which is worth learning for everyone.
3. Willing to give
You have a true temperament. You went to Beijing for love, which shows that you are a person who is willing to give.
When a person can give for love and for feelings, the other party can feel it, which is also the reason why your current boyfriend is willing to give for you.
I believe that the other party also feels your all-round construction, all-round efforts, and love.
Many girls will study: How to make the other party invest more in me?
In fact, there is no secret, just make the other party feel that you are worth it and you really pay.
4. Handle the relationship with wealth well
You have a good relationship with wealth. Your boyfriend bought a house for you. This is a flow of love, and you can accept it calmly.
In the Chengdu station Q&A, we once met a girl who felt that accepting her man’s money seemed to make love impure. This is because she could not handle her relationship with wealth well.
Not only did you accept it frankly, but you also rented out the house, which revitalized the assets. I think it is very good.
The relationship between a person and wealth is to keep the flow of love.
5. Clear goals
You are a person with very clear goals and can continuously optimize.
For example, you want to stay in Beijing, but you didn’t have a job at the time. In order to stay, you took a doctoral exam. This goal is very clear, and you can work hard to stay in Beijing.
Now it may seem light to say “doctoral study”, but I believe you had to overcome many difficulties at that time, and you had to prepare for exams, applications, and many other things. You had no house or car, so you must have been in a mess.
But for such a goal, you must have made your own plan and implemented it seriously. This is a goal-oriented person.
6. Both internal and external cultivation
From you, we can also learn that a charming woman should be both internal and external.
You study hard, do doctoral studies, and go to the gym to maintain a healthy state, which is very important.
Because wealth, health, and love, these three form a triangle, and none of them can be missing.
And you will also spend time to dress yourself up, meet different people, improve your emotional intelligence, and cultivate both internal and external cultivation. It is impossible for such a person to be unattractive.
7. Plan your life
From the first word to the last word, looking at your whole story, I want to say: This is a planned life.
Maybe at first, you left your hometown for love, and then stayed in Beijing to realize the greater value of life. Later, on the basis of staying in Beijing, you pursued a life of love. This journey was very smooth and made people feel very comfortable.
Moreover, you are not the kind of person who gives people a boost. You can make people feel naturally that learning can really change a person and knowledge can really change fate.
The learning of knowledge mentioned here is not a narrow, bookish learning, but a comprehensive, emotionally intelligent, well-handled, and constantly explored and learned life.
After reading your story, we have more inspiration for our creation.
We realize that from today on, we should not only care about those who have difficulties in their emotions, accompany them through the dark times, and become better themselves, but also turn our attention to those women who are constantly pursuing happiness.
We should invite more girls who are pursuing happiness like you to share your changed lives with us. This is very necessary.
In this kaleidoscope of the world, what did we see in the past?
Seeing so much suffering and so many life difficulties, we vow to answer 10,000 “what to do”, but we ignore that there are thousands of “Xiaomei” like you in this world, and you have all gained a wonderful life through your own struggle.
Each of us may be a person named “Xiaomei” like you, with a little beauty, just like everyone has a lamp. If we gather all these lamps together, it will become a sea of happy beacons, allowing more people to see how a happy life should unfold.
Therefore, next, we should not only study:
How should life solve those pains and difficulties?
We should also learn:
How can we get happiness?
What kind of efforts did those happy people make, what steps did they go through, and what methods did they master to get all this?
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